When people say they struggle with targeting they usually mean this:

“I’m putting my message out there… but I don’t know if it’s reaching the right people.”

That frustration doesn't just live inside Facebook Ads manager. It shows up everywhere. Instagram posts that go nowhere, emails that don’t get replies, conversations at networking events that never turn into business.

It’s not a platform problem. It’s a clarity problem.

Because the moment you understand who you’re for, something shifts. You stop trying to appeal to everyone. You stop over explaining. You stop second guessing where to show up. And instead, you start recognizing your people in the wild.

You see them in comment sections. You notice what they say in conversations. You hear the same frustrations over and over again. That’s when targeting stops feeling like a guessing game and starts feeling like instinct.

Let’s strip this down to what actually works, no matter where you’re trying to reach people. Start by identifying a real person, not a category.

Not “small business owners.” Not “people who like fitness.” That’s lazy targeting. That’s how you get lost. That’s how you end up talking into a crowd instead of a human.

Instead, think about someone who you’ve already helped or wished that you could help more. Picture where they wrestle right when they needed you. What were they dealing with? What were they frustrated about? What were they trying to fix?

That moment is everything.

Whether you’re running a Facebook ad, posting on social media, or shaking hands at an event, you’re always running to do the same thing: connecting with someone who recognized themselves in what you’re saying. Now here’s where this becomes powerful across the board.

On Facebook, Instagram, Linkedln, you can use targeting tools, sure. But those tools work best when they’re guided by real insight. You’re not just selecting interests, you’re asking, “Where would this person already be paying attention.” What pages do they follow? What conversations are they lurking in? What kind of content makes them stop scrolling?

That’s targeting.

Offline, it’s the same principle, just a different environment.

If you walk into a room and say, “I help businesses grow,” you’ll get polite nods and zero traction. But if you say something that speaks directly to that moment, “I work with people who are tired of throwing money at marketing that doesn't bring in real customers” watch how fast the right people lean in.

You didn’t change the room.

You changed the signal.

And that’s the game: sending out a signal that your people can recognize.

The more specific you get about the problem you solve and the moment someone is in, the easier it becomes to find them, because they start finding you.

That’s when your marketing stops feeling forced. And starts to feel like alignment.

If you ever start thinking, “I know I should narrow this down,, but I don’t know where to start,” this is where AI becomes your shortcut.

Not to replace your thinking, but to sharpen it.

You can use it to map out your ideal customer in a way that applies everywhere: ads, content, conversations, even in person pitches.

Give it context. Let it help you connect the dots. Here’s your copy & paste prompt:

Run that, and you’ll start seeing your audience with a whole new level of clarity.

1️⃣Podcast: Everyone Hates Marketers

2️⃣Article: How to Actually Know Your Customer (Not Just Pretend You Do)
A practical breakdown of going deeper than surface-level avatars and building real insight.

3️⃣Book: Building a StoryBrand by Donald Miller
A powerful guide to clarifying your message so your audience immediately knows you’re talking to them

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